Why does a session with your vibrator always seem to be a ‘quickie’? I understand ‘mission oriented’, but sometimes, what we are really missing is that long, erotic sexual experience of our lover, and that person is simply unavailable.
Creativity with vibrators can be a wonderful way to achieve your release, but also the extended pleasure that we all sometimes crave.
Next time you are really missing your partner, consider two vibrators for your adventure.
Set your favorite music or visuals, and prepare for some long fun.
Starting with a wand can be the way to get things going, but stretch it out… don’t aim for the orgasm, aim for the pleasure-level. Extending that timeline means extending those beautiful endorphins, that rush of moaning pleasure that comes with constant touch.
Take a break, sip your drink or hit your smoke, then return to the game.
When you feel like you may be ready to step up to the next level of pleasure, increase the stimulation by switching to your next favorite toy. An internal vibrator is a great next play, and some toys come with multiple stimulation points, each able to turn up the intensity of the game another notch.
Your vibrator won’t get tired.
For years vibrators have been evolving! They now come in all sizes, girths, lengths, textures, colors, shades and even the real feel of skin. At the same time, designers have excelled at shapes intended to reach those perfect points both in and on your body that will allow you to reach your heights of orgasm. Add to that the fact that now there are app-augmented internal and external vaginal vibrators, anal vibrators, nipple clamps and discreet panty vibrators which allow you to set the vibration to match the ambient music in the room, your playlist on Spotify, or even save the favorite pattern for re-play later. The options are endless.
Predictability
The best part of all of this? Your vibrator won’t get tired. It won’t change up the play on you, just when you want more of that exact feeling.
So, skip the quickie… get two vibrators, play hard, and then take a relaxing shower, clean your friends up with some toy-cleaner, and watch the news with a sweet snack. You deserve all that.
The Question:
Will using vibrators regularly decrease the ability to have orgasms without them? Will they desensitize my partner? Should we just not use them?
The Answer:
Maybe. But I am also pretty sure that the type of stimulation you currently enjoy as an adult is different than the stimulation you enjoyed as a teenager when you were first masturbating, and that was considered ‘great’ then too.
Unless you choose to stifle it, your sexuality is a journey. A constantly shifting and evolving set of likes and interests on an upward trajectory.
Why would you ever want to give up a better orgasm just because it might stop you from settling for a lesser orgasm later?
Also, as solo-play, who cares if you get a stronger and stronger vibrator over your lifetime?
Furthermore, with partner-play, whether you use a vibrator or your hand, the intimacy of the event is the participation and pleasuring of both of you. Together, in the moment. Giving to each other. The intimacy is not replaced by the vibrator: it is enhanced by the trust between you, when including a toy.
