Is Masturbation With Your Partner Taboo or Just Awkward?
Private masturbation is still a taboo subject for some, with that old adage resounding in our brains that “if I do it too much, I might go blind” or “grow hair on my palms”! We promise you that neither will occur. More frequently, there is a sense of shame for many people who were raised with certain religious beliefs, in homes where sex-positivity and education about sexuality was non-existent, or who have been in relationships where their partner has expressed negativity about masturbating.
For a lot of people, making that leap to masturbating in front of your partner is really difficult and is enough to make a significant part of the population blanche. Many people consider masturbation very private solo-play.
But there is a serious benefit to masturbating in front of your partner early in your relationship: they will see how you like to be touched.
Penis-holders.
They will see exactly how you stroke yourself. How hard, at what points you apply pressure. No partner knows how rough they can be with your penis until they see how you do it to yourself. They don’t know exactly how you like to be squeezed just under or on the head of your cock, how hard you like to pull on yourself, or how exactly your hand snakes down under your balls. Most importantly, they will notice how you touch yourself differently just as you come close to orgasm.
The Benefit of Showing Off Your Orgasm.
But once you show them? They can feel secure in doing just what you like! They can give you the ultimate experience, because they know what really turns you on. They won’t be hesitant about over-stimulating you or questioning if they are applying sufficient pressure for you.
Vagina-owners.
You know how disappointing it is when your partner comes close to your spot but misses by just that little bit… and you don’t want to correct them in that moment. But it can be so frustrating! They may not understand the depth of pressure which you enjoy. Some of us are left-side or right-side dominant clitorally, or we like to involve nipples and breasts as part of the drive towards the finish-line. How else would your partner know this, unless they observe what really makes you tick?
This is why sharing your own way is the perfect way to share information with your partner.
You may be wondering, “but how do I bridge that gap? I feel awkward, shy, or uncomfortable being watched in that moment, and it makes it almost impossible to execute, or makes the orgasm elusive.”
Try something simple like wearing a blindfold. Suddenly, you can relax in your own world.
The blindfold can help you eliminate the feeling that you are being watched, and free you to explore yourself fully without an overwhelming feeling of self-consciousness.
In search of the greatest interaction with your partner, it never hurts to give them all the information they might be seeking to heighten the ecstasy you feel when you are together.
The Question:
What is your suggestion for a great couple’s toy for intercourse?
The Answer:
Definitely a vibrating cock ring. It is fun for both, enhancing an already exciting set of positions, and they come in a wide variety of vibration levels of rumbliness or buzziness. Some even come with remotes, so for all you guys who need the action to cease immediately after climax- you can shut it down with a simple click!
